Perhaps you’ve had exes tell you you’re hard to handle. Those same exes say they put effort into the relationship, but it wasn’t reciprocated.
Perhaps you’ve been in the early stages of a relationship and your partner has called you out for not coming up with date ideas. You apologize.
Here’s a kicker: A friend tells you you’re probably hard to date because you’re so ambitious. Pick your jaw up off the ground; the flies are coming in.