I am assertive. And I am a nice guy.
You are assertive. But are you a nice woman? Or a nasty one?
In our gendered culture, niceness is a double-edged sword. It can be a fawning compliment or a searing denunciation.
As you eyes crinkle in confusion, let me explain.
For men, it is socially acceptable to be assertive — even demanding. From Trump’s pugnacious campaign to head coach Frank Martin’s icy glare, there is a societal expectation — perhaps embrace — of the emphatic man. I...